Monthly Archives: October 2013

A Lifelong Student

This one’s a bit abstract. Bear with me if you can.

Let me lead with this: my parents are amazing. I tell people that whenever the topic comes up. They’re my role models, my best friends, and my support system. They’re both incredible people as a couple and as individuals. I’m proud to be their daughter, and they’re the reason I am the person I’ve become.

One of the most important things my parents ever taught me was about learning. I’m not talking academia, although the principle applies there as well. I mean learning in life. Learning from mistakes. Learning from people you know. Learning from situations you’re in. Learning whatever the Universe is trying to teach you. Everything and everyone that comes into your life is a learning experience. You learn lessons. But don’t think of “learning your lesson” as a negative thing. Take the negative, “I told you so” connotation out of it for this discussion. It’s just a process – an evolution.

Because of how I was raised, and because of my own life experiences, I believe this: if the same thing keeps happening to you over and over, you’re probably missing the lesson. The Universe will keep sending you the same problem so that you have another opportunity to learn from it. And every time you refuse to learn the lesson, it gets harder. If you didn’t learn the lesson that Dysfunctional Relationship 1 tried to teach you, then DR2 will present the same lesson with a twist. Ignore that one, and DR3 will get even trickier or more complicated or more emotionally difficult. You get the point.

I believe that learning these lessons helps you evolve as a human being. If you think of life as a video game, learning from and accepting the lessons that the Universe throws at you is like leveling-up or gaining a skill or something. You need to learn before you can move forward to bigger, better things, as it were.

When we were younger and one of us got frustrated about some person or event or disappointment and we couldn’t see beyond it, my mom would remind us to “Be silent. Be still. What is the lesson?” Take a step back – take the gut reaction out of it – and try to understand the bigger picture.

And sometimes I forget that I might be someone’s lesson – someone’s opportunity to learn. If I’ve learned a lesson, but then the situation comes up again in some form, it might not be because I didn’t learn what I was supposed to – it might be because the other person hasn’t learned his part yet.

I bring this up because I’ve gotten this feeling a couple times recently. People from my past – people I think I’ve learned from and who have helped me grow – have made short reappearances in my life in some form. A text. A call. A run-in. And the pattern begins to run. The old scenario resurfaces, but I know how to deal with it this time. And I think to myself, “Why? Why is this coming up again? I thought I’d learned what I needed to from this.” Then it hit me: I may be done with it, but maybe the other person isn’t. So the Universe has brought us back into each other’s lives so that the other person has the opportunity to learn a lesson.

I know not everyone agrees with all this. I know it might seem a little nutty to some folks, and that’s okay – I get that it might seem odd. But that’s how I see it. I guess I believe that we’re all connected in this cosmic way. That we all serve a purpose in each other’s lives. And today, I felt like putting it into words.

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I find it irritating predictable sad
interesting
that I only hear from you
after you’ve had a pint
(or four)
of liquid courage.
And that you think
I haven’t noticed
and/or that it’s funny.
I have.
And it’s not.

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Top Five Songs I’m Listening To On Repeat Right Now

There are certain TV shows and movies I usually end up watching when I’m sick. For example, I think we can all agree on The Price Is Right. One of my other favorites is the movie High Fidelity, a film adaptation of the Nick Hornby novel (read it. Side note: the book is almost always better than the movie.) The movie stars John Cusack, Jack Black, Catherine Zeta-Jones, and Lisa Bonet, among others. One of the things the main character Rob Fleming (Cusack) does is make Top Five lists: Top Five Memorable Breakups, Top Five Dream Jobs, Top Five Things I Miss About Laura, Top Five Songs To Play On A Monday Morning . . . you get the drift.

Anyway, I got to thinking about that movie and book and how I love them, and I felt like building a Top Five Songs I’m Listening To On Repeat Right Now. Creative, yes? Some are new-ish, some have been out for awhile, some are downright old at this point. But what they have in common is that they’ve all been earworms for me. So, here we go . . .

1. The Avett Brothers – “Another Is Waiting”
(Heard it on 87.7 a few weeks ago as I arrived at work. By the time I’d gotten to my desk, I couldn’t remember enough lyrics to Google it. Thank goodness the afternoon deejay, Rachel Steele, played it and told me who the artist was.)

2. Gary Moore – “Still Got The Blues”
(Blues fans, if you haven’t heard any Gary Moore, you’re missing out. I remember listening to Gary Moore with my dad when I was five-ish. Better yet, create a Gary Moore Pandora station. I promise, you’ll love it.)

3. Porcupine Tree – “Normal”
(A band that comes up consistently on one of my Pandora stations.)

4. Flyleaf – “All Around Me”
(Reminds me of Paramore. Add Lacey Mosley to my list of female lead singer crushes. Top Five coming soon 😉 )

5. Keane – “Somewhere Only We Know”
(Come on. It’s beautiful.)

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I Friggin’ Love Cleveland

I wish I’d written this brilliant article about Cleveland sports and Cleveland fans. It’s pretty perfect. Particularly this portion:

It’s easy to look at all the history in Cleveland, come here and talk to people, see games like the Indians Wednesday or Hoyer’s injury Thursday, and walk away baffled by how awful sports can be for some fans. But that’s not actually how it feels when you talk to people around here.

Losing sucks, but most people in this city have a pretty good sense of humor about it. They can complain about everything, but then laugh about it. And win or lose, sports still give everyone a great excuse to get excited about something, ditch work early, show up, and throw a gigantic party. . .

More than anything else, diving into Cleveland sports for two days was just a solid reminder of something I learned a long time ago as a Wizards fan: The worst teams always have the best fans. Losing weeds out all the entitled people, and you’re left with a much better group. People who have a sense of humor, people who get irrationally excited about guys like Travis Benjamin, and people who never stop showing up regardless of what happened last time. In a sports world dominated by stats and market size and expert analysis, the people who don’t give a shit about the odds are probably more fun than anyone. And that’s Cleveland.

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